Posts Tagged ‘Stop That Breakup’

The Unsubscribe Link In Our Emails

Monday, December 6th, 2010

As you may know we have a newsletter that currently offers a free 7 Day Course for subscribers as soon as they register at StopThatBreakup.com/signup

We send our newsletter using Aweber, which is an ethical company who do everything they can to ensure all subscribers only receive information that they signed up for themselves.

Aweber also make it very easy for subscribers to unsubscribe, should they ever want to stop receiving our emails. All they have to do is click the unsubscribe link at the bottom of any email from us.

However, it seems there is some confusion about the function of the Unsubscribe Link.

Due to unethical marketers who send unsolicited email to people who did not give their consent to receive it (SPAMMERS), there is misleading advice floating around.

Many sources are advising people NEVER to click on an unsubscribe link, as it tells spammers that the email is a live email address, and opens the floodgates for more spam.

However, that advice is only for spammers. At Stop That Breakup, we already know subscribers’ emails are live because they clicked a link to confirm their subscription when they first signed up.

Ethical newsletter publishers such as ourselves, who only send information consented to by subscribers, offer unsubscribe links that really do what they are supposed to.

When you click the unsubscribe link in our emails, you will have the option to change your details or unsubscribe completely. If you unsubscribe, you will not hear from us again, and as we state on our signup page, we do not sell or rent your details to anyone else.

Phil and I want to send you valuable information that you will be pleased to receive. We also want to know what sort of information you would like to receive from us in future and we welcome your comments and suggestions. If you are happy to receive our emails, you might want to add us to your Contacts or Address book, then none of our emails will end up getting filtered out. You can still unsubscribe at any time.

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Stop That Breakup!

Sunday, November 14th, 2010

There is a lot of information out there on the internet about how to stop a breakup, but a lot of it is written by people who don’t have many credentials. The information is just their opinion.

But one man who knows exactly how you can stop a breakup is a man Phil and I turned to when we were desperate for help in stopping our breakup. His book on how to do it and has helped couples all over the world stay together, and I will keep you posted just as soon as we have the full details. Watch this space!

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Stop A Breakup – Stop Sulking

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

stopbreakupOne of my pet hates is sulking and sulkers. This didn’t, however, stop me from sulking, as Phil will attest. But he was a terrible sulker before we both educated ourselves.

Sulkers want you to know that you have upset them, but they don’t have the self-confidence to tell you exactly what it is that you have done wrong. They expect you to just know! So now you’re supposed to be able to read their mind.

Well, the chances are, if your partner is sulking, you won’t know what it is you have done because all the things you said to them made perfect sense in your head, and seemed perfectly fair at the time.

So how do we put a stop to sulking?

We can ensure we don’t sulk ourselves, by being honest with our partner and having confidence to tell them when we are upset and why (without blaming though, remember!)

To stop your partner sulking is really quite easy. You don’t ask them or tell them to stop sulking. You do something much more clever.

As soon as you discover they are sulking, you must sincerely ask; “Have I done something to upset you?”

If they say “Yes” and explain what – great! But quite often they will lie and say “No” if they still don’t feel confident enough to tackle the problem.

In which case you must say “Oh, that’s OK then. I just thought I’d upset you because your breathing (or whatever) sounded like you were angry”.

If they still don’t want to tackle the problem, in most cases, they will feel they have to stop sulking, as they would now appear to be a liar if they continued. Your honesty and courtesy might even persuade them to be honest with you in return. Result!

But if they still continue sulking, don’t give them eye contact at all, and only give short, polite responses to them. Don’t ignore them completely, because then you are being as silly as they are. Remain civilized but make it clear you don’t tolerate them sulking.

To ensure you don’t appear too ignorant, you must busy yourself with something totally unrelated. Unless they are not very bright, they will know that you are doing this deliberately. But in fairness, you did give them the opportunity to sort things out; they can’t blame you for not tolerating sulking after being so reasonable.

If you use this tactic and avoid a conversation without being honest with them first, however, they will get angry and start slamming doors because they will think you have not noticed they are sulking! This will just make things worse. You must be upfront first.

Sulking is very childish behavior, and is the result of being emotionally immature. I guarantee you won’t need to do the above exercise more than twice for the message to sink in. Once you behave in a mature and reasonable way in response to sulking, your partner will stop being The Incredible Sulk!

If you liked this tip, we have plenty more in our free Stop That Breakup 7 Day Course – just sign up over on the right or clickHere.

Stop A Breakup With a Challenge

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

One amazingly powerful way to stop a breakup is when you focus all your energy on something other than your relationship, and your partner lives through it with you. When was the last time you were really challenged? I don’t mean in a discussion or argument, but in a real adventure or upheaval in your life.

Perhaps it was a sporting event that you had to put all your physical and mental energy into. How about training for running a marathon? Because it is something constructive, your partner would have to be incredibly selfish if they did not support you in something like this.

Perhaps you suffered in some way, and fought to get out of a bad situation. I will never look at adversity as bad luck ever again. Why? Because something happened to us that we thought was one of the cruelest blows of bad luck imaginable. We never would have believed we could survive it and even one day be thankful that it had happened. But we did.

When adversity hits, don’t crumble under the pressure. Think of it as your turn to be tested and an opportunity to prove you can come through it. If you and your partner go through the bad times together and support each other, your bond will grow stronger than ever, because you will learn things about yourselves and each other that you never imagined were possible.

Relationship Communication

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

In order to stop a breakup and have a successful relationship, you both need to be able to communicate effectively, but the chances are, one of you has the upper hand regarding communication.

It is reported that more women can interpret non-verbal cues better than men can, but I know lots of men who can do this very well too. All human beings have micro-expressions for example, which are facial expressions they hold for a fraction of a second before they are aware of what their face is doing.

Perhaps, for example, you bump into someone you don’t like, but you obviously don’t want the person to know you you are horrified to see them, so you smile and pleasantly ask how they are. But for a split second, when they first caught your attention, you looked slightly horrified before immediately changing your expression to a smile. Even though you smiled, if the person is good at picking up non-verbal cues, they will have noticed.

It is these micro-expressions that tell people the likelihood of us lying and our true feelings despite what we are actually saying. They are quite universal and even body language experts often cannot hide these micro-expressions, but there are often charicteristics that are unique to each individual, that only people who know them will be able to interpret.

Nervous laughter at the end of a sentence can also give away that we are not feeling comfortable, and in a lot of literature on non-verbal communication, this behavior is often indicative of lying, but that advice is very unreliable because many people develop this as a nervous habit, whether they lie or not.

In addition, when we try to decypher what our partner is really communicating, if we are slightly paranoid, we may be reading just a bit too much into their behavior.

So no matter how good we normally are at perceiving people’s behavior, in order to prevent distrust and further conflict, there is only one way to find out exactly what is going on in our partner’s head.

What we really need to do is talk to each other. And when we suspect our partner is keeping something from us, rather than become accusatory, ask ourselves why this would be. If for example it is to save from hurting our feelings, then provide a disclaimer to that scenario immediately, by saying something like “You can tell me honestly – I won’t be offended”.

Make direct communication a healthy habit in your relationship. Just make sure you do it in a way that does not make your partner think you are nagging them. If you listen and regularly act upon their requests, they will have faith that talking to you openly is a good thing.

Best of luck.

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Stop That Breakup 7 Day Course

Tuesday, August 25th, 2009

Hi guys, we’ve been getting positive feedback about the Free 7 Day Course we’re currently giving away to subscribers.

Here are a few comments from some of the emails we’ve had:

Sangita says:

Wow! when you said it was comprehensive you weren’t kidding! I have been so depressed lately and i know what to do now. My boyfriend already noticed a diffrence when I did what you said on day 4 . we have some friends coming round on saturday and we plan to play your game!

R L says:

Thanks for the free course an the extra bonus. It is very helpful, I guess I wasn’t being fair to my boyfriend before. I blamed him for evcerything but if Im honest it is about 50.50. both of us.

Mark says:

“I really thought it was gonna be pile of junk but it was quite good thanks. I liked the negotiation examples you gave…”

Nadav says:

I love the course so far but is it possible to not have stop that breakup in the title? I wanted to view it at work and that is sort of private?

In response to Nadav’s comment, we have Stop That Breakup within the title because it is the name of the 7 Day Course, but subsequent emails will still have ‘Stop That Breakup’ in the ‘From’ box because they are sent from our email linked to this site; Gemma AT StopThatBreakup.com. We have to make it clear who they are from so they don’t get missed or filtered out.

What you could do is quickly forward the email to a different private email and change the title, then delete the original. Then the forwarded email won’t show up as being from us. Most people have more than one email address. If you don’t, get a free one from Gmail. I wouldn’t recommend hotmail or yahoo as they are often linked with deliverability issues.

Keep your comments coming; we want to know what you think!

Thanks

Gemma

The Stop That Breakup blog

Tuesday, August 4th, 2009

I have decided to build a blog on how to stop breakups because I was so lucky to find this information out.

They do not teach people this stuff. We are just supposed to muddle through life and know instinctively what to do!

And yet they wouldn’t let you out on the highway without a driving license would they? It’s exactly the same thing. There has to be a proven system to follow in order to get along with your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. And I have so many post ideas and great info on how to work on your relationship, so you don’t have to break up with your partner.

If you sign up for your free 7 Day Course on the right, you can start putting the advice into action right now! Within minutes you’ll receive Part 1 of your course, and over the next week you will discover the most common mistakes that people in troubled or failed relationships do. Make sure you are not doing any of these or you could lose your partner forever.

Welcome!

Tuesday, August 4th, 2009

stopbreakupWelcome to the Stop That Breakup blog. I hope you are able to benefit a great deal from the information here so you can stop a break-up and keep your man or woman and be happy together for a long time.