Posts Tagged ‘fix a relationship’

Is a Breakup Inevitable?

Saturday, March 19th, 2011

You could have been heading for a breakup for some time without even knowing it. Some people can read between the lines better than others. These people are a lot more perceptive when it comes to friendships and relationships. They pick up on non-verbal cues and can usually often tell when someone is lying.

And yet these people will still often fail to notice when things start to go wrong. As well as the rest of us that can’t see it at all, and feel like we have been hit by a sledgehammer when in fact an imminent breakup was creeping up on us all the time, the perceptive person can still be caught out.

A lot of these perceptive people realize that the signs had been there all along, but had chosen to ignore them. The biggest signs were ‘gut’ feelings that something was wrong. And that’s the key! Our gut feelings are rarely wrong, and instead of ignoring them, we need to take notice before the relationship spirals out of control.

Your partner could be telling you one thing, but behaving a different way. This contradiction is usually a huge sign that all is not well.

Other common signs of an impending breakup are:

  • Your partner becomes secretive
  • There is a change in their routine
  • They want to spend less time with you
  • They forget important dates
  • They go out with friends more than you
  • They don’t express love as often as they used to
  • They don’t propose within five years of dating
  • They pick fights over insignificant things
  • They continue friendships with ex partners
  • They start to browse dating sites

These clues can often mean the writing’s on the wall, but it does not mean your relationship is definitely doomed. It just means the spark has gone for your partner, but there are ways you can get it back!

You just need to be willing to change your outlook and behavior. So no, a breakup is not inevitable, and you are already in the right place to start to put things right!

Guys; Wear Red to Keep Your Woman!

Sunday, August 8th, 2010

Research has shown that women are attracted to men who wear red. They find men in red more powerful, attractive and sexually desirable than men wearing other colors, according to a new study by the University of Rochester.

So fellas, if you don’t want to lose your woman, you need to wear red. A university professor says so!

“We found that women view men in red as higher in status, more likely to make money and more likely to climb the social ladder,” says lead researcher Andrew Elliot, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, in a university news release. “It is this high status judgment that leads to the attraction.”

You may think it’s because women think of guys wearing red as passionate or sensitive, but in fact it is because the color made men appear attractive and powerful, but it had no effect on whether a man was likable, kind or sociable.

The study was conducted on undergraduate men and women in the United States, the UK, China and Germany, and it was found that the “red effect” is consistent across cultures. This leads Elliot to believe the results to be biological in nature, and not culturally ingrained.

In the study, women were shown a series of photos of men in different colored tees and were asked about their interest in dating, kissing and more with the men in the pictures. No trend was found with any other color.

But then the guy who did the experiment does seem to have a fascination with the color red. He found in 2007 that red could impair the ability to perform competitively, and in 2008 that women in red were more attractive to men.

Well in theory he should be attracted to this blog then, shouldn’t he?

Stop That Breakup 7 Day Course

Tuesday, August 25th, 2009

Hi guys, we’ve been getting positive feedback about the Free 7 Day Course we’re currently giving away to subscribers.

Here are a few comments from some of the emails we’ve had:

Sangita says:

Wow! when you said it was comprehensive you weren’t kidding! I have been so depressed lately and i know what to do now. My boyfriend already noticed a diffrence when I did what you said on day 4 . we have some friends coming round on saturday and we plan to play your game!

R L says:

Thanks for the free course an the extra bonus. It is very helpful, I guess I wasn’t being fair to my boyfriend before. I blamed him for evcerything but if Im honest it is about 50.50. both of us.

Mark says:

“I really thought it was gonna be pile of junk but it was quite good thanks. I liked the negotiation examples you gave…”

Nadav says:

I love the course so far but is it possible to not have stop that breakup in the title? I wanted to view it at work and that is sort of private?

In response to Nadav’s comment, we have Stop That Breakup within the title because it is the name of the 7 Day Course, but subsequent emails will still have ‘Stop That Breakup’ in the ‘From’ box because they are sent from our email linked to this site; Gemma AT StopThatBreakup.com. We have to make it clear who they are from so they don’t get missed or filtered out.

What you could do is quickly forward the email to a different private email and change the title, then delete the original. Then the forwarded email won’t show up as being from us. Most people have more than one email address. If you don’t, get a free one from Gmail. I wouldn’t recommend hotmail or yahoo as they are often linked with deliverability issues.

Keep your comments coming; we want to know what you think!

Thanks

Gemma