People in successful relationships have one huge thing in common. They are happy in their own skin; they’re happy with who they are and they exude confidence.
They sound perfect don’t they? But d’you know what? They’re not perfect. Most people have insecurities. The key is knowing what is acceptable to reveal and what is not. Even if you have terrible low self esteem and get very jealous at the slightest opportunity, you can still appear to be confident.
Actors do it all the time when preparing for a role. You just act. And there will be instant feedback. For example, if you were to fixate yourself on a hobby and when your partner next sees you, you smile and are polite, you ask them how their day has been and tell them you’ll be with them shortly – your feedback will be the same; a smile and a polite response.
Although this may seem a small gesture, it is very important. Make sure all your interactions are equally as pleasant.
You have now communicated to your partner that you have a life of your own. That your are happy doing something that doesn’t rely on their constant input. They will feel that you have not been festering away thinking about negative things, and this will make you more approachable.
And the great thing about this acting is; after a while you won’t need to act anymore because you’ll become the person you are behaving like! Your confident behavior will make your partner open up more and you will see there is nothing to be jealous about. Then the love you have for each other will be genuine, and you can rest assured that you are loved for who you are, forget your old insecurities and become one of those couples in a successful relationship.